If you are a man who thinks it’s funny to make misogynist jokes purely to make your female friends uncomfortable/angry, then you are a misogynist. It is not “just a joke.” You literally are finding humor in the discomfort and dehumanization of women. You are not helping, you are not making satire. You are just being misogynist.
Yes, this includes you gay men.
Feminism did not invent an irrational fear that all men are violent; the high number of men who are violent rapists and commit violence against women are responsible for fostering this very realistic fear. This is called a class analysis.