You may not agree with a woman, but to criticize her appearance — as opposed to her ideas or actions — isn’t doing anyone any favors, least of all you. Insulting a woman’s looks when they have nothing to do with the issue at hand implies a lack of comprehension on your part, an inability to engage in high-level thinking. You may think she’s ugly, but everyone else thinks you’re an idiot.
Hilary Clinton says like an absolute legend. It’s a bit too normal how appearances are criticised and the degree to which such criticisms are perceived as valid.
It always says more about you than me and I’m glad Hilary found the words to explain it coherently. .
This is the language of privilege – the audacity of standing at the top of a mountain you made on the backs of others and then yelling at people for being at the bottom. If it’s not the intangible Market that’s to blame, it’s the writers of color, who maybe don’t have what it takes and don’t submit enough anyway. Read the subtextual coding here – the agent first places the onus of change on the folks with the least institutional power to effect it, then suggests we probably won’t be able to find the time (i.e., lazy) to master the craft.Author Daniel Jose Older on Buzzfeed, responding to this panel of literary agents discussing the lack of diversity in publishing. (via tubooks)
Step One: Normal fandom member.
“Hey look, I found these neat boards that I can discuss Rob and Kristen on. And here’s a place where I can look at pretty pictures of them.”
Step Two: Involved fandom member.
“I commented regularly on Twilight sites and even made manips and posted them for everyone to enjoy. I even dabbled in fanfiction.”
Step Three: Disorientated fandom member.
“I became disappointed in Rob for loving Kristen and I just realized that some people don’t see the situation the same way as I do. They continue to believe Rob and Kristen are together, and some even believe Kristen is having his baby. How dare they. And they don’t even like my RPF!”
Step Four: Judgmental fandom member.
“They obviously just need to be led into the light. I’m going to write long posts about why my opinions are better than theirs.”
Step Five: A fandom troll - the beginnings.
“I don’t know why I haven’t converted them. I know, I’ll start posting my hatred of their beliefs and tag them as delusional. They obviously haven’t read my magnificent thoughts yet. Because if they did there is no way they wouldn’t be on my side.”
Step Six: A fandom troll - the developing.
“What the fuck? They still have a mind of their own? I haven’t convinced them yet? What the fuck is this? There’s only one answer. They must be too stupid to function. And what’s this? I can send messages anonymously! I’m totes on top of that!”
Step Seven: A fandom troll - the fully established.
“I used to have a life but now all I do is send hate messages to people I don’t even know, and make assumptions about their age, gender, income level, sexual orientation and educational level. Hmm…maybe I could get an education myself if I wasn’t too busy obsessing about my desire to become Rob’s only love. But wait! There’s at least two people I haven’t made fun of or asked inane questions of yet. I can’t make them think they’re winning!”
Step Eight: A fandom troll - the Master Troll!
“I can’t talk to you right now. These damn pro RK sites won’t let me post anonymous. That’s bullshit! Oh, that’s OK though, I can create unlimited Livejournal accounts with one email! Maybe later, these ladies just don’t understand. But I’ll make them understand. Especially when I copy and paste their comments onto Gossip Cop and Datalounge where people believe the way I do! Maybe I can get Annie Packer and Jistsaying to help me. They hate Kristen to, but they’ll never get Rob, he’s all mine. I’m so brilliant! Can you bring me some coffee? This could go all night!”
Replace twilight/rob/kristen with any other fandom, and you have it. Some even skip the steps.
Like when women hate men it’s frustrating at worst, maybe it hurts someone’s feelings, but when men hate women they are shamed, abused, patronized, demeaned, objectified, raped, and murdered, ya feel me, so even if I WAS a raging misandrist like worst case scenario I’d be a bummer at parties, meanwhile a girl somewhere literally can’t leave her house because it’s dark outside.